BIBLICAL SEL: Cultivating Character

Hey Reader!

We know how essential social-emotional development is during the first five years of life, and at ECCN, we talk about practical strategies regularly for supporting healthy social-emotional development. In the first few years, children are learning how to identify their feelings, control their impulses, build relationships, and make good choices. In education, we often call this Social and Emotional Learning. The framework is valuable and accurate, but today, we’re going to take a look at SEL through a biblical lens.

(BTW, I had a great conversation with Dr. Tyler Groves, author of Growing With One Another: Social & Emotional Learning in Christian Perspective , on this week’s podcast episode! Dr. Groves will be our opening keynote speaker this summer, so come interact with him in person!)

Let’s explore how the five core competencies of the CASEL model (a secular, science and evidence-based framework) are actually grounded in God’s truth based on Dr. Groves’ book:

  • Self-Awareness becomes more than naming feelings—it’s helping children see they are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) as God’s workmanship to do good works! (Ephesians 2:10)
  • Self-Management includes deep breaths and quiet spaces, but also invites children to pray and ask Jesus to help them grow in displaying all the fruit of the Spirit, including self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
  • Responsible Decision-Making means more than choosing what’s fair or “making a good choice”—it means choosing what is right in God’s eyes, even when it’s hard. God’s expectations for behavior are high, and none of us (adults included) can do it without Him. (Colossians 3:8-10, Romans 3:23).
  • Social Awareness grows when children learn to care for others because we are all made in God’s image (Genesis 1:27). We can choose to put others’ needs above our own. (Philippians 2:3-4).
  • Relationship Skills go beyond sharing—they include learning to forgive, show grace, and love others like Jesus loves us (John 13:34, Ephesians 4:2-3). In fact, Jesus even says we should “love our neighbor as ourselves” as part of The Greatest Commandment. (Matthew 22:37-39)

In early childhood, this often looks like very practical steps – breathing, naming emotions, and practicing appropriate responses to those emotions, allowing children to “try again” after poor choices, building empathy and practicing generosity and forgiveness, and patience. All of these skills take practice – for the children AND us, as the adults. Let’s remember that we are shaping not only behavior but hearts. When we teach with a biblical perspective, SEL isn’t just about helping children succeed in school—it’s about discipling them to live in their true identity in Christ as beloved children of God. We’re tilling the spiritual soil so that the seeds of faith we plant can take root and grow.

You can find a much more in-depth study and application of the Christian perspective on SEL in the book Growing With One Another or you can check out the scientific research at CASEL.org.

Cheering you on this week!

-Your ECCN team

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Listen to this podcast episode with host Monica Healer now on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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P.S. Are you new to early childhood ministry and education? Do you just need a reset to get back to the basics? Join Monica and Pastor Josh Zello as we embark on a 4-week journey of getting back to the basics of early childhood this September.

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